What I Miss About Being Normal

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I am an alcoholic as well as diagnosed with bipolar 1 and borderline personality disorder. You could definitely say that at times I’ve been all over the map. I am in remission from all three disorders, but bits and pieces of the mania, emptiness, and cravings still remain. In order to be free of pain, I’ve found that I have to follow my doctor’s instructions to the letter, go to Alcoholics Anonymous at least four times per week, and attend classes and workshops to educate myself further. I had a hard life because of my diagnoses, but like I said, I’m pretty much in remission now and I am the happiest I’ve ever been. That being said, I still miss being “normal”, although I never have been. I’ve compiled a list of five reasons why.

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1. Emotional Regulation

Even though I take Abilify, Lithium, Neurontin, and Ativan, I’m still an emotional mess sometimes. I know everyone has their days, but mine can be hilariously dramatic, replete with crying buckets and accusing my loved ones of being against me. On these days I feel like my heart aches for something I don’t even know about and watching the homeless woman push her cart down the street does something to my sympathies I can’t possibly begin to understand.

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  1. Drinking

I don’t want my life to go down the tubes as it has so many times with alcohol. I want to drink like normal people! I want to go into a shiny, yet dark, bar and flit around the room in my evening dress or whatever, smoking out of a cigarette holder and saying, “Dahhling”. Of course, that was The Great Gatsby and never my life, but I still want to do that. I just want to feel the alcohol run down my throat, burning as it goes, one more time. I want to get the euphoric feeling and make out with some Joe and rip my stockings.

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  1. Being Young

Okay, so I’m only medium-old (40), but it’s only been a few years that I’ve been medicated and in Alcoholics Anonymous. When these things happened, my life got increasingly better, and I’m doing pretty well these days. However, I miss my youth. I was so sick and uncomfortable in my skin throughout my teens, twenties, and thirties, that I was either drunk or miserable all that time. I couldn’t hold many jobs, so by the time I had gone into remission, it felt like it was too late to start a career. I know that it’s not, but sometimes I feel that way (emotional regulation?). I just look back and mourn all the lost opportunities I could have had.

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  1. Not Being Stigmatized

This is the reason I write in Suicidal Thoughts. It is so hard for people to recover from mental illness without being made to feel that there is something inherently wrong with him/her. Even though I am a productive member of society now, I still don’t feel comfortable telling people about my disorders. It just seems that when people get cancer, the whole family gathers around and friends are sympathetic. Not so with the mentally ill. We almost have to keep it a secret. We find one another and are so relieved that we can speak freely. There is something terribly, terribly wrong with this. I’m not ashamed to say that I’ve wished for cancer hundreds of times. Then maybe I’d get a parade.

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  1. Less Embarrassment

In my particular case, I act out sexually because my mania gets out of hand occasionally. I have a wonderful husband who has done everything for me, but I still find myself flirting with other men, and even sexting with them. I always get found out and I am always so red-faced about it. I can’t believe my husband is still with me after all that, but he is learning to understand bipolar disorder, so he sees my behavior as my sickness and not cheating. When these things happen I feel like a stranger to myself. I mourn the fact that even though I’m on medication and going to therapy, sometimes I slip.

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This is by no means a complete list of the things I miss because I am mentally ill. I find reasons to feel sorry for myself every day, but it doesn’t last long, because I realize how lucky I am to even be alive. Mental illness is no joke. I’m including alcoholism in there, because it is a mental and spiritual malady. Those of us who have made it this far deserve a parade in my opinion. Until then, we can all continue to speak our minds about how we feel and maybe shrink some of that stigma down to a manageable size.

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Why I Write About Suicide

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People think I’m nuts. They have a point, because I am certified mentally ill, but they think I’m crazy because I choose to write about suicide. I was at a party the other evening and one of the attendees was talking about her life as if it were over. I told her about my blog and that was the end of it, but later I began to stress over talking to her about it. What if she was horrified that I called her out on her suicidality (privately, of course)? I don’t know how she feels. I’m just guessing that she was probably offended or shocked. This is conjecture based on the reactions I get from others who sometimes back away with a sour look on their face when I mention that I write about suicide.

I feel strongly about suicide. I’ve lost two people to the disorder and I almost lost myself. My best friend almost completed a plan two years ago. Any book on suicide will tell you that it is the number 3 reason why young people die. Millions worldwide succumb to it every year. Why should anybody not feel strongly about suicide? I have five major reasons I write. They are listed below.

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  1. To Forgive

When Derek died, I went through the stages of grief and then I went through them again. And again. I had conquered fear, I was through bargaining, had brought the denial to light, and was teetering on acceptance. Anger was the only thing that fully remained; it came and went during all my breathing hours. I would never reach a healthy acceptance of Derek’s death unless I reduced my anger by about 95 per cent (it never fully goes away). It was the padding in my heart that made his death seem more bearable.

Most people in our community were very gracious to me at the time, but a few were a little weird. They would tell me how selfish Derek was. I didn’t want to believe them. I knew that he had been suffering from clinical depression, but a part of me let the selfishness theory in. After all, I knew that Derek loved me – why would he hurt me like that?

Unfortunately for me, the anger would last for two decades. It was easier to be mad at him than cry. It was easier to hate him than to remember the thrill of first love and cherish those memories. It was easier not to write about him because… (grabs Kleenex). It’s been 25 years and I’m bawling like a baby right now. Oh my God, my desk is wet! Oh, anyway. I guess the grief cycle comes again.

My favorite spiritual teacher, Emmet Fox, describes forgiveness well. He says that a resentment against another is like a chain, locking you to that person. There will never be freedom in your life if you are chained to someone like that – living or dead. I love Derek, but I don’t want to be chained to someone on the other side. I want to be present for the living. I started practicing forgiveness and amazing things happened. When I thought of Derek, I smiled more, I cried less, and I was a LOT less angry. I believe practicing forgiveness was the nicest thing I could do for someone who I never saw acting selfish once while he was living.

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  1. To Remember

Because of the incredible stigma that attaches itself to suicide, it is unfashionable to remember those lost. Or, we remember them like I did above: with anger and some bundle of sometimes unrecognizable emotions. Survivors are often told that the suicide is selfish, leaving them to avoid counseling or talking about it altogether. When the people in my life died to suicide, I stopped talking about it too. Really, no one seemed to want to hear about my pain and loss.

But the suicides are our loved ones. For however long God chose to keep them here, we are best suited to be grateful for that time. Remembering the good times, without anger, will keep you healthier and your bond with the deceased (yes, there is one) will grow and blossom.

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  1. Because of the Stigma

So, from what I’ve gathered in several articles and books, suicide stigma is not a recent invention. Of course I have to mention the middle ages, where they would drag a beheaded suicide behind a wagon or whatever and then they would pierce his/her heart. It all came from good common concern that the dead person had evil sprits that had made him/her take their life. Then, it got a little better and the Enlightenment Age mellowed out the headless dragging, but there was still the Catholic Church and it’s own stigma.

It wasn’t until late last century that we made it a little less illegal to kill yourself. I still don’t think it’s legal, but it’s not legally acted upon as much anymore. When most people alive today grew up with suicidality being a thing to be acted upon legally, it’s no wonder no one wants to talk about it.

Yeah, people think I’m crazy to write about suicide, but I’m not. I’m brave. I’m brave because I will talk to anyone about suicide. I’m sick and tired of not being able to, and if you take my lead, there will be two of us talking about suicide. Feel me?

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  1. So I Don’t Do it Myself

I was very suicidal two years ago. The only reason I couldn’t go through it was my living loved ones. It was getting to the point where I wasn’t so concerned about them either. Eventually, I got to the doctor and my friend gave me the book, Sermon on the Mount. Between the medications, counseling, and reading, I was able to come out of it eventually, but I remember the feeling of total devastation. I have suicidal tendencies. That’s a fact I’ll live with for the rest of my life. I just want a longer life now.

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  1. So Someone Else Doesn’t Do it

I write so you don’t do it. Or your mom doesn’t do it. Or your friend. I write to keep you alive. I write to keep us all alive.

 

In conclusion, I think dialogue will ruin this thing. It will take suicide’s neck and shake it. I maintain that talking about, writing about, having plays about, throwing fundraisers about, loving each other about suicide, will kick it in it’s ever-loving ass.

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So you think that it’s over
That your love has finally reached the end
Any time you call, night or day
I’ll be right there for you when you need a friend, yeah

It’s gonna take a little time
Time is sure to mend your broken heart
Don’t you even worry, pretty darlin’
I know you’ll find love again

Yeah, love is all around you
Love is knockin’ outside your door
Waitin’ for you is this love made just for two
Keep an open heart and you’ll find love again, I know

Love is all around you, yeah
Love is knockin’ outside your door
Waitin’ for you is this love made just for two
Keep an open heart and you’ll find love again, I know

It’s all around

Love will find a way
Darlin’, love is gonna find a way
Find its way back to you
Love will find a way
So look around, open your eyes

Love is gonna find a way
Love is gonna, love is gonna find a way
Love will find a way
Love’s gonna find a way back to you, yeah

I know
I know
I know
I know

What it Feels Like After Suicide

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Derek was my sweetheart when I was 16 years-old. I wrote Derek’s Story, which was about his suicide, but now I realize that I left so much out. When you are a survivor of suicide – either your own or somebody else’s – the feelings left over are extremely confusing. Nothing is what it seems and it can feel like you are lost in your own world. This blog is my attempt to describe the emotions that come and go after a suicide, and try to make sense of them.

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In middle school, the students were told that a boy in high school committed suicide and his girlfriend was beside herself with grief. I remember thinking that if something like that ever happened to me, it would be the most embarrassing and horrible thing that could happen in school (This was 1988, so we would see the actual most horrible things to happen in a high school later). About five years after that, it did happen to me. This is what I did:

  1. I told Derek to “go ahead” and commit suicide. I don’t like to be threatened and I didn’t think he would do it, but he did.
  2. I felt nothing about this.
  3. Three full days later, I went to the police and they found him dead.
  4. I felt nothing.
  5. I cried just a smidge, but I still felt nothing.
  6. Clearly, I was in shock.

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When I stopped feeling nothing, I started feeling empty. This was slightly different than feeling nothing. I had a few feelings pop up around this time: guilt, dread, anger, devastation. These were almost welcome after feeling nothing for a few days, but I say almost, because these emotions basically suck. I think the guilt kept me feeling empty longer, because I blamed myself for his suicide, and possibly rightfully. My emptiness confined me to my bed for about a week, and then my dad made me go back to school.

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At school, I didn’t know how to act. I would get giggly for no reason and say inappropriate things to people. Teachers and students would tip-toe around me so as not to have to converse. Outside of school, my behavior became erratic. I pierced my nose and started wearing rags, instead of my nice clothes. I morphed from walking around like a zombie to an outgoing young girl and back again. No one knew whether I was coming or going.

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Nightimes had me crying under the covers. Having full feelings now, I was overwhelmed. Even though I had just graduated from a treatment center, I went out and got drunk almost every evening. I don’t even think my dad noticed because of his concern about my grief. I got lost in a huge drinking crowd where I would hang out and get completely wasted. This was the beginning of my habit of drinking to assuage pain.

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My grief was long and unbearable. One day, my well-meaning best friend told me that since it had been two months since his death that I should be “over it”. I disagreed. I believed that the pain in my heart had years to work itself out. I was right.

In the past 25 years since Derek killed himself, I have asked the same questions almost every day: “Why?”, “Why me?”, “Where did you go?”, “Will I ever see you again?” “Did you know how much I loved you?” It’s been all these years and I’m bawling like a baby right this moment.

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Any death in a family will have a butterfly effect on those around the deceased. Derek’s funeral was standing room only. Batches of people gave their own eulogy and I got up there and said a whole bunch of shit that made no sense. Later, I skateboarded down a hill I didn’t know how to navigate and half killed my own self. No one really knows how to operate when something so horrible happens. My opinion is that we just let our emotions ride until they pass and try to think of the good times with that person. Even if it makes you cry.

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50 Things to do Instead of Kill Yourself

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  1. Call the National Suicide Lifeline.

If you are really in trouble, do not read the rest of this blog. Call the Lifeline now.

  1. Realize that even if you don’t like the way you look, someone thinks you are perfectly beautiful.

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You might not even know this person, but believe me someone thinks you’re hot stuff!

  1. Know that there will never be anyone like you, ever.

I know, you’ve heard it all before, but it’s true. You are the only one ever made. You are special and you are special to many people, I’m guessing. People who want to die are sensitive, intelligent people. You are no exception, and people love sensitive, intelligent, loving people.

  1. Make a half-smile. Or a full smile, if you feel like it.

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This is trick from Marsha Linehan, who is the champion behind all the healing of borderline personality disorder sufferers. I know it’s so cheesy, but it actually relieves a little pain.

  1. Listen to the beat of your own heart.

  1. Have a friend give you a back massage – or go get one in town.

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This one might be more difficult. My husband won’t give me a back rub (because he doesn’t “know how”), and I can never seem to afford them. But, it getting a back rub from someone safe is possible, you should do it!

  1. Listen to music from a genre you really dig. On a record player, if possible.

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For me, this would be the 70’s. A little Cat Stevens always makes me a little happier.

  1. Watch a funny video

  1. Do some creative writing, but don’t get too deep into the suicidal thoughts.

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Sometimes this gets dangerous for me, but I just have to remember that I’m keeping my writing light – just for therapy purposes. If you are delving into suicidal material, keep it short.

  1. Go out and talk to one person.

  1. Read your favorite book.

My favorite book is Anne of Green Gables. It’s pretty much torn up by now. I mean, I’ve been reading it since I was twelve!

  1. Take a nap.

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Sometimes I feel guilty for doing this, but if I’m suicidal, I remember that I wasn’t going to do anything for the rest of my life anyway. You will feel better after a nap.

  1. Call a good friend. Not one who will judge you.

Do not call that religious friend who will tell you that suicide is a sin. I can’t stand those people.

  1. Float on a body of water, if one is near.

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But please don’t drown yourself.

  1. Start finding your ultimate purpose.

Hell yeah!

  1. Explore your talents (yes, you have them).

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Underwater basket weaving, anyone?

  1. Have a movie party and stay up all night, even if you are the only one invited.

  1. Take a bubble bath

  1. Think about your soulmate.

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I think everyone has a soul mate out there, and guess what? The more you think about him/her, the more energy in the universe has to go out and snag ‘em!

  1. Sing in the shower.

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It’s a bummer if you have housemates.

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But you can do this anywhere outside the house.

  1. Think about the people whom you love.

  1. Walk into a warm building on a cold day.

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Oooh!

  1. Walk into a cool building on a warm day.

Ahh!

  1. Sign up for a workshop.

This will get you out of yourself for a few hours every week.

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  1. Sign up for a support group.

This will also get you out of the house, but the potential to make great friends is here as well.

  1. Make snow angels.

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Self-explanatory

  1. Make sand angels.

Self-explanatory

  1. Make dirt angels (ooh! This one would be fun.).dirt angels

Also self-explanatory

  1. Remember that if you have the capacity to be sad, you have the capacity to be happy.

Was there a time in your life that you felt happy? Maybe in childhood? Think about these times – meditate on them for a while.

  1. Sleep in (all day!).

This is the time to not worry about commitments. You are very sick if you are thinking about suicide. Just stay in bed today and tackle those commitments after you have been rested.

  1. Think about being 80 years-old and being proud of yourself that you are alive.

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  1. Acknowledge the “butterfly effect” that happens when people kill themselves.

  1. Eat some comfort food.

  1. Call an old flame, just to see what happens.

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  1. Watch the entire season of Breaking Bad. All at once.

  1. Call someone you love just to tell them you love them.

Doing this will spark some endorphins, at least.

  1. Have a nice cup of coffee/tea, and drink it slowly, enjoying the experience.

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  1. I also prefer Napoleon Dynamite as a pick-me-up, but I’m pretty strange. You might want to pick your own movie.

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  1. Cry. A lot. Now cry some more.

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Some people think that crying is for weak people. I’m here to tell you that it is for the strong at heart, indeed.

  1. Scream (if you can. Don’t alarm anyone).

But if you can, do it. Hike to the top of a mountain and just let it out. It’s cathartic as hell.

  1. Find a wacky fundraiser and get excited about it.

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I wrote a few. Here is the website: 50 Wacky Fundraising Ideas

  1. Bake, or attempt to bake. Give some to your neighbors.

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You don’t really have to know how to bake to have fun in the kitchen. It’s a guaranteed distraction, especially when you have to clean up the mess.

  1. Get into that craft you always wanted to be good at.

There are too many ideas to mention. I’m sure you’ve got at least one.

  1. Think about your teenage years and know that nothing will ever be that hard.

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  1. Take a walk, no matter the weather.

  1. Go to the movies, either by yourself or with friends.

  1. Lie down.

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  1. Laugh for no reason.

  1. Write a blog:

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Amber’s Story

 

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When I was 22, my boyfriend and I liked to go the bar every night. The bar was joined by a restaurant that served delicious Tex-Mex food. We didn’t go there to get drunk (but we did) or stuff ourselves with tacos (we did that too); we were there to see Amber. She was my age and I liked her a lot, but Rob, my boyfriend, loved her as his best friend in the world. Rob was older than we were by about 12 years, and Amber’s fiancé was even older than that, I think. He was the manager at the bar, while she was a bartender. Although Rob and I weren’t as close to Tori as we were to Amber, we liked to visit with them both.

Amber was the sun on a cloudy day. She was so beautiful, witty, and smart – she could always make you smile. That’s probably was what made her a great bartender. However, bartending was only a fraction of what Amber could do. She was also a graduate student and had a student position in the science department. She always told us that the scientists she was working for had a top secret experiment going on that she was allowed to participate in, but she wouldn’t tell us more. I remember her coming over to our house and smoking cigarettes with me on the porch. She knew all about the constellations and would explain these and things like the phenomenon of cults to me. It seemed that Amber knew a little bit about everything.

When Amber sported an engagement band on her ring finger, we were so happy for her. We teased her about Tori finally getting her a ring. She retorted, “I bought this for myself. I knew Tori would never get me one”. Of course, we didn’t know what to say, so we said nothing. I remember being confused about why she would buy her own ring, but it didn’t seem to bother her and I never asked about it.

Amber and Tori would come over for game night or dinner. I remember one time we went out to a restaurant and I got drunk, squirting half and half over everyone from the little containers. Rob was furious with me, but Amber only got a little frustrated. That’s how she was: calm and cool. I loved her for keeping me grounded. I needed that, because I was an untreated bipolar alcoholic. I knew that Amber was Rob’s best friend, and I respected that, but I secretly wanted her to be mine.

I only saw Amber upset once, but I couldn’t figure out why. She said a “nosy neighbor” came over and bothered her about a loud noise coming from her house. Amber thought this was ridiculous and that the neighbor just wanted to bother her. We took her side right away, telling her that it was ridiculous and that she should just forget about it. I don’t think she ever did – she was so pissed off.

Rob and I were having dinner with Amber and Tori one night when she exclaimed that she alone had solved the science problem in her lab at school. We stared at her with dumb looks until she finally thought she convinced us that the year-long hypothetical, college level science problem, had been solved exclusively by her. We told her we believed her, but I don’t think any of us did. “Are you going to tell the scientists?” I asked. “Soon”, she said, “soon”.

She never told them. Word came that Amber was dead. She had put her head in a drawer and shot herself. They would find extra holes in the drawer where Amber had “practiced”. This is why the neighbor had previously come over. It was important to Amber that Tori find her, which is what had made her so angry. None of this made any sense: Amber was always upbeat and almost everyone she knew loved her like a sister. Why would she want to hurt Tori like that? What had happened?

She wanted a ring on her finger in death and she wanted to pass away knowing that she alone held the secret to the science experiment. Tori talked to one of her science coworkers who verified that Amber had hidden the scientific results. But why would she want to leave us? Didn’t she love us? No one could explain a thing about this suicide. It didn’t make sense, but do they ever?

So many people mourned at her memorial. It was a disgusting and sad day. Mourners walked around with lost faces. I thought a few would walk straight into the wall. Amber left us a memory album (she what?!), yes, she compiled a book of memories for her death. It was clear that she knew about this day long before any of us did.

This was 1997 and I don’t know what kind of suicide prevention there was. I know there was a little, because I remember learning about it at school, but even that was minute. I think that if there was more early education, potential suicides would know what resources are out there. This could have helped Amber, but I don’t know that it would have. We’ll never know why Amber had to die, but I can tell you that the people who knew her will never forget her. This is why I work to spread suicide awareness and work for suicide prevention. We need to eradicate stigma and maintain safe places for people to talk about suicide.

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Erin’s Story

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Picture above: “Erin’s Story” by Susan Ward

This is the short story of my life and how I became suicidal. Because it is a bare-bones account of who I am, I am sure that I am leaving out a lot of information that would help you understand me. If you have any questions, please leave a comment. I would love to interact with you. Erin

My early childhood was okay. Mom was Betty Crocker and Dad was Ward Cleaver. I was a pretty happy kid, unless they were fighting with each other. My mother and father could really get into it, and it frightened me. One time they both came bursting into my room, each grabbing hold of one of my arms, and pulled me like they were playing tug-of-war. Neither parent remembers this – or admits to it. They just wanted to get away from one another, but each wanted to take their only child with them.

Finally, they divorced. The judge awarded them joint custody of me. This was the most stressful thing as a child. My mother was slipping into mental illness, in my opinion. On the weeks I would spend with her, she would yell and scream at me for no reason. I looked so forward to seeing my dad, who was calm and nurturing, but the weeks with him seemed to speed by.

I was a promising Olympic hopeful when this was going on. My sport was Rhythmic Gymnastics and I had placed first in a regional meet when I was ten years old. My (now insane) mother was drooling over the chance to have a famous daughter. She pushed me and pushed me to be better at it, but with the added pressure, instead I took a nosedive. My scores lowered and my mother got more freaked out.

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Finally, my mother gave me an ultimatum: move with her to a town with a more prestigious gym, or she was taking off and I could live with my dad. If this happened, she told me she didn’t want to see me until I was 18 years-old. I was almost twelve at the time. I cried a lot over this, but eventually chose my dad. I still feel that sense of her abandonment today, although I’ve talked to my mom since, and she needs a lot of psychiatric help, in my opinion. She is no one I would have liked to raise me.

Alcoholism took over very early for me. I was about 12 years-old when I impulsively stole a little from each of my dad’s booze bottles, poured it all in a Garfield thermos, and chugged. I don’t remember that night, but my dad does! He tried to dissuade me from drinking by taking me to skid row and giving me the tour. I just felt jealous that the bums got to drink and sit around all day. This definitely says something about me and my alcoholic tendencies.

Bipolar disorder took over not long after that and I was impulsively goading my sleepover friends to snort crystal light powder up their noses, or outrageously flirting with teachers and other students, or kissing older boys, or urging the driver to go faster. I just felt so empty and I was searching for a thrill. I was uncomfortable in my skin and I needed something to make me feel better.

The depression part of bipolar made me cry almost every day. In high school, I would sleep through my classes. During my junior year, I had a boyfriend named Derek, who I was madly in love with. He decided to shoot himself in the head and I was devastated. Although I had just been to rehab, the tools I learned there were worthless in this situation. I became more depressed, impulsive, and alcoholic.

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I left high school my senior year to go study at the local community college. I was so uncomfortable all the time; it would make me think I had to get out of whatever situation I was in. That’s why I left high school. College was better, but still, I was feeling like I had to bail. So I followed the Grateful Dead all summer.

During this time, I took way too much LSD. I traveled with a man I barely knew and to tell you the truth, probably wouldn’t even have had lunch with. He took the battery out of my car and put it in his, so I was essentially trapped. His car was smashed by a delivery truck while I was in it, injuring my back and shoulder. My “friend” drove away from the scene due to his not having a license – a fact I had not known about. I struggle with my back and shoulder to this day.

Then I got drunk. I got drunk, drunk, and drunk. I held jobs for less than a year. I flunked out of community college, alienated people at bars, and became a stripper so I could get paid to drink. I got kicked out of those bars too. I didn’t care about anything except getting drunk, and then I found methamphetamine.

For a year and a half, I smoked, snorted, and even shot methamphetamine. What was best about this drug was that it calmed me down for a while. I definitely got amped, but there would be a time after ingestion when everything just seemed alright. This was what I was searching for all my life, it seemed. As a bonus, I could drink a lot while taking meth. Like for 72 hours straight.

I sobered from meth and alcohol in a treatment center I stayed in for four months. I remained sober for seven years after that. During this time, I struggled to manage my bipolar symptoms and I had yet to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, so I was trying to manage symptoms without knowing why I had them. I acted out sexually during this time and impulsively took my medications as they were not prescribed. I was sober, but I was still in trouble.

I finally drank again, which brought back feelings of relief and comfort. I could never stop at tipsy, so I got shitty drunk whenever I drank. I lost my driver’s license for four years. Luckily, I lived with my current husband at the time and he could drive me around, but otherwise I was trapped in the house if he wasn’t going anywhere (we live in the country). I continued to drink and finally, my husband kicked me out.

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I went to live with my dad for a year. I ended up taking off with another man I wouldn’t even have lunch with. He was living in a tiny little camper trailer, and now, so was I! I decided to go off all of my medications and get pregnant with this guy. Three months later, I had an abortion. The guy and his family harassed me for months, but the deed was done. I had been mentally sick and needing medication while I was pregnant, but there are few medications you can take while carrying a fetus. I also realized that I was too messed up to be a mom.

Still recovering from the abortion, I took off with another homeless guy (lunch? No thanks.). We ended up staying in this ancient and small Airstream trailer that was sitting in a junkyard. The dust in that place was at least a half-inch thick. This was in Eastern Oregon and the nights were freezing. I had to squish myself into a sleeping bag with this guy in order to stay warm. I lay awake like that one night and decided that I wanted to kill myself. I just didn’t know how.

I escaped back to my husband and he welcomed me with open arms. My bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorders were still not being treated and within a year, I cheated on my husband twice. The first time, I tried to commit suicide by drinking a giant bottle of Jack Daniel’s in one hour. I woke up two days later and was taken to a psychiatric hospital. Because I had no insurance, they just let me stay there for seven days without treating me. They had no problem charging me $14,000 though.

The second time I cheated on my husband, I ended up in jail for drunken disorderliness. The doctor there prescribed me some meds and I felt relief right away. I was put on probation, but get this: being on probation meant I was eligible for a free doctor. The doctor put me on an antipsychotic medication and I had never, ever, felt better. All of the pesky bipolar symptoms went down to a low roar and I felt like I could do anything.

A few months later, something strange happened. I fell into a depression because I realized how much I had wasted my life. I looked back and saw a drunken, meth-addled, poor student, bad employee, and awful partner. I couldn’t find a way to make anything of my life now. Suddenly, I knew I was ready to die. I just needed to find a way to make it look like an accident, so my loved ones wouldn’t have to grieve a suicide.

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I can’t sit here and describe the horrible guilt, despair, and sorrow I felt when I realized I was ready to go to the other side. Those feelings weren’t for me; they were for the people who I would leave behind. It was so weird to finally have freedom from the symptoms which plagued me for 25 years, yet feel I was in a rock-bottom mess. I just felt worthless and I wanted to die.

Therapy. 12-step meetings. Talking to friends. Therapy. Counseling. Reading self-help books. Therapy. 12-step meetings. Reading spiritual literature. Therapy. Counseling. Talking to friends. Talking to a 12-Step sponsor. Okay, I think you got it.

I changed my attitude and decided to get busy living instead of get busy dying. I decided that I could spend each day doing nothing but what I needed to do for the day and let the future shake itself out. So far, it’s working. I don’t feel suicidal anymore – I love my life. If you’ve read this and something sticks out for you, please leave me a comment. Thank you for visiting my blog.

Here are some helpful books about some of the things I mentioned:

The Bipolar Disorder Survival guide

I Hate You Don’t Leave Me

The Sermon on the Mount: The Key to Success in Life

50 Wacky Ideas for Fundraisers

Here are 50 of the most potentially hilarious fundraising ideas I could find. Okay, so not all of them are super funny, but I think you could say that they all have a certain wackiness factor. Have fun reading, and if you have any questions about these, please feel free to contact me by leaving a comment.

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1. Onion Peeling Contest

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Who doesn’t love seeing a grown man cry? This is an inexpensive and hilarious way to raise funds. Helmets not allowed.

2. The Four Pound Burger Challenge

There is nothing at all like an eating contest. Challenge some prominent men and women in your community to come and pig out. Serve regular-sized burgers for a donation and fun will be had by all.

3. Bad Hair Day Contest

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I would win this. Everyone will have a good time with this contest – even those who are not sporting bad hairdos. Invite some local celebrities to be the ones wearing the styles and  use their status to advertise on the news. Charge admission. Done.

4. Jail and Bail

Have local business owners “arrested” when they have agreed to be nominated (this is very important). Allow the public a window of four hours to “bail” each prisoner out through an internet website. Try to make this happen at the actual jailhouse and install a webcam. Solicit the jailers to let delicious food be served to the prisoners during those four hours (you’re not a monster). The arrestees will have to pledge their friends and family in the time before the arrest to raise money fast in those four hours!

 5. Get Naked for Suicide Prevention

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Make a calendar or have a strip-show at a local auditorium (adults only, of course). You don’t have to get down to bare naked – just give ‘em a good laugh.

6. Flush Suicide/Cancer/Violence, etc.

Some students in Pennsylvania decided to paint a toilet gold and sell opportunities to have it placed on someone else’s yard for the day. Priceless.

7.Travel Abroad Wearing Only a Bunny Suit (or Wacky Suit of Your Choice)

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This idea came from the Brits, and they are very wacky. It is suggested that you travel abroad wearing a bunny suit the whole time. However, you don’t have to go abroad; you can go anywhere, or stay in town – as long as you’re wearing your bunny suit. You have to prove you are wearing it by posting to facebook, Instagram, your own website, or whichever you choose. Pledge for donations ahead of time and get your friends to join you while wearing other funny outfits.

8. Movie Themed Event

Shaken, not stirred, may the force be with you, say hello to my little friend, may the odds be ever in your favor…

9. Bungee Jumping

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Wheee! How fun it would be to get a group of people to bungee jump together. Pledge your friends and family to see who wants you to jump off a bridge. Then do it!

10. Get Cold!

The winter is a great time to strip down and dive into your nearest lake. Bring tons of towels and blankets and have a community bonfire right there on the shore. It might be a little cold, so you can make arrangements with a local dining hall for a gathering after the dip. Either have participants pledge for their plunge, or nominate local celebrities to dip while you charge admission. Half-price when they bring a prepared dish for your feast.

11. Coffee Tasting Party

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You can class this one up by pledging all of your local coffee brewers to donate their wares and then turn it into a formal gathering. You can charge admission, people can vote on their favorites, and a good time will be had by all.

12. Beauty Pageant for Men

Need I say more?

13. Dog Show

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I have no friend who owns a dog and doesn’t think their dog should be a trophy winner. Gather the locals in your auditorium of choice, name a judge, charge for dog entry and people entry, and just go for it. Be sure to sweep the space afterward. One word – fur.

14. The Best Parking Spot Auction

You can run this at your local everywhere: the mall, the Walmart, your local busy restaurant. Pledge each manager to run the raffle, giving away the best parking spot for one month to a lucky winner.

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15. Food Fight!

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I’m not sure how easy it would be to procure a site for a food fight, but it’s a fun idea. If you can get one of your local high schools to donate their cafeteria, you could put tarps on the floor for semi-easy clean up. Make sure there are lots of volunteers to wipe the spaghetti off the walls and all that. Solicit local grocery stores and restaurants for the food, or charge half-price at the door when people bring it to toss. Don’t forget to invite local celebrities (who wouldn’t want to see that car dealership owner who advertises incessantly to be covered in Jello mold?).

16. Barstool Race

For those lucky enough to live next to a ski area, this one is tops. Participants try sliding down a hill balanced on a barstool balanced on skis! Challenge your local high school and college athletes to join your cause while having a fun day on the slopes.

17. Adult Spelling Bee

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Everyone knows at least one adult who loves to tell you how intelligent they are. Well, make them prove it. Here is another fundraiser that is perfect for inviting local celebrities. People would definitely pay to see the weatherman go down in alphabetical flames.

18. Beautiful Baby

Let locals submit photos of their baby on a website that has the capability of charging an entrance fee. Televise the winner on the local news.

19. Firewalk

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Sound scary? It’s actually a very enjoyable experience if done right. Make sure you do your homework (there’s a ton of information on the web) and you and your friends could be pledging for donations just to walk down an aisle. A fiery aisle.

20. Stay Out of Jail

In this one, your company has to raise enough money to stay out of jail. If the funds aren’t raised, they still get delicious food in their jail cell. Also, there would be opportunities to get bailed out.

21. Color Run

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It’s like this: people run, and along the way, other people fire colored powder at them. The end result is a lot of multi-colored people laughing their butts off. The powder is a non-toxic talc, so you’re good. Bring a change of clothing or towels to throw over your car seats. Either charge an admission fee to the runners or have them pledge for funds during some length of time (3 months?) before the race.

22. Post Halloween Yard Clean Up

Get some volunteers and go!

23. Zombie Prom

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Even if you’re an adult, you probably love zombies. That’s why this fundraiser needs no explanation.

24. Premium Stadium Seating

If you can procure this, then anything is possible. Advertise this prime piece of real estate on the news and set up a website where you can auction it off.

25. Casino Night

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Gambling at its finest! It’s all the fun with none of the guilt when you’re playing for charity. Grab your friends who would be great dealers, or better yet, have local celebrities draw the blackjack cards.

26. School Sleepover for Adults

Yep, the floor of the caf and everything. Play movies, games, eat a ton of junk food. Charge admission and get no sleep.

27. Turkey Trot

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A perfect Thanksgiving activity, the Turkey Trot is a race before a turkey feed. Ask spectators to bring a prepared dish (advertise this if you can) and solicit your local markets for turkeys. You will need a lot of volunteers to pull this one off, but it’s a great way to bring the community together and gather funds for your cause.

28.Test Drive the Car of Your Dreams

Admission charged to drive your dream car around the bend.

29. Car Detailing

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Solicit a bunch of detailing volunteers, advertise the date and location, and then go to town! Charge a nominal fee for the service, and at the end of the day, you got funds.

30. Kidnap the Pastor

Kidnap your beloved pastor/reverend/Buddhist teacher and don’t let them go until enough people have pledged his/her safety. Actually, you can just tell people he/she is kidnapped. You can really just be kicking back together, playing parcheesi.

31. A Roast

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This one is my favorite. Invite local celebrities like your news people, a beloved restauranteur, or the guy with all the annoying local commercials, to be roasted on a stage. They can’t say no, I mean, are they worried about what people will say? Involving your “famous” locals is a great way to get on the news to advertise your fundraiser, and it will get people off the couch for one night as well. Make sure that your audience understands that it is all in fun, and have a moderator make sure this is so. Charge admission and have a great time!

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32. Embarassment Cards

Write up an embarrassing action (chicken dance, hop on one for one minute, pull a face for two minutes) and hand the cards to your friends, family, and business associates. Tell them they have the choice of donating a dollar or doing the action on the card, on film. Should be an easy choice.

33. Balloon-O-Gram

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No one can walk past a bunch of balloons. This is something you can do outside your local supermarket (with permission, of course) and should generate a big crowd. A balloon-o-gram is about ten or so balloons with a card attached. The public can purchase these for a loved one and you create funds.

34. Human Targets

Water balloons at a donated price and elected people to throw them at. This works best with local celebrities, clergy, and businesspeople.

35. Abseil (With or Without Wacky Outfit)

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The British suggest that you do this with a bunny suit. I’m not kidding. But I think this fundraiser will work either way. If you do decide to wear a funny costume, just make sure it won’t get in the way of your equipment. Have the Abseil-ers pledge for donations and then try to fall (sorry, I’m a fatalist).

36. Helicopter Drop

If you can get a helicopter with no problem, it will be a miracle. But if you put a little networking into it, it could happen. Then you get a map of a certain area and break it into a grid. Offer the public pieces of the grid to be procured for a donation. When the helicopter drops a specified item onto the mapped area, whomever’s part of the grid it reaches wins the prize. Offer second and third place prizes as well.

37. Touch a Truck

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This is an awesome idea for kids’ charities, but I think it could work for any fundraiser. Solicit your local police, firefighters, and construction crews to bring a truck or two to a parking lot on a Saturday morning. Charge admission. Simple.

38. Pin the Map

Hide treasure somewhere in town. Offer pins for a donation and let people put them on a map that encircles then treasure. You might want to make tiny flags to identify the owners of the pins. I think you got the rest.

39. Break a World Record

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There are so many records left to break: the most people drinking coffee simultaneously, the most people making origami simultaneously – sorry, I’m not that creative. But there really are lots of records to make up and break. This could get the public seriously involved, and you could bring in a lot of donations. Make sure to contact the Guinness World Record people. I think they come and give you the award in person.

40. Townopoly

Solicit local businesses to fund their spot on your new board game. Check out this website to get your game built: http://www.makeplayingcards.com/custom-board-games.aspx

41. Game Show Night

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Play your favorite game by having volunteers move the set around to reflect the plays and get great laughs from the audience (whom you sold tickets to). Local celebrities make the best hosts.

42. Dueling Pianos

Find your local piano heroes and hold an amazing concert.

43. Shave Your Head

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This one’s great if you have a boss. Get a collection jar, and when it fills, the person you nominated to go bald, uh, goes bald. Make it a contest amongst businesses in your area to see whose jar can fill up fastest.

44. Choose the Torture

This is also great for bosses, clergy members, and local celebrities. People donate for a chance to vote on the “torture” to be imparted. It could be hair dye, dressing in pajamas for a day, or shaving a moustache, but it should be funny – not really torturous.

45. Inflatable Fair

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Nothing wrong with that.

46. Party Like its 1999…or 1982…or…

Just do it.

47. Smartie’s

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Hand them out to your friends and ask them to return the wrapper – wrapped in their spare change.

48. Dog Walk

Be dog walkers for donations.

49. Tasting Party

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Pledge your local eateries for their finest delicacies and sell tickets to your upscale party.

50. Badminton Tournament

For laughs to be had by all.

One Extra…New Year’s Eve Party

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If everyone goes in costume, it will be that much more fun.

There are so many things you can do for charity. Fifty fundraisers don’t even scratch the surface. Whatever you decide to do for your cause, make sure it is safe and that all participants know they are participants. Other than that, have as much fun as you can and get those donations!

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25 Shocking Careers that Might Make You Kill Yourself

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There are so many sites with statistics on who is killing themselves in whatever profession. These sites sometimes reference the National Organization of Occupational Mortality and the Bureau of Labor Statistics. I will reference both, but I still won’t be able to come up with 100% accuracy in the statistics I list. This doesn’t worry me as much as trying to explain why these professions cause suicide more than others. In doing so, I will start out by saying that men had much higher suicide rates than women. Also, as age increases, so do suicide rates.

Pharmacists are 1.29x more likely to commit suicide

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This one makes sense to me. If I was surrounded by a candy store of narcotics every day, I’m not sure I could control myself. This leads to addiction, which can eventually lead down the road to suicide. In one woman’s account of a fellow pharmacist falling into that trap, it almost ended in suicide. The coworker wound up in the hospital after taking a ton of pills. Even after getting his license back, he relapsed and nearly drove himself to death again. A stream of evidence suggests that dangerous materials on a jobsite make suicide that much easier.

Precision Woodworkers are 1.3x more likely to commit suicide

Precision wood worker

“A growing group of experts is seeing perfectionism as both a blessing and a curse, prompting high achievement but making the achievers implacable self-critics” asserts Daniel Goleman in his article, “Higher Risks for Perfectionists” which attempts to explain the high number of artistry suicides. Perfectionists tend to respond poorly to medications and treatments, according to other studies. It seems that stresses such as getting things “perfect” can be a killer, especially if the art is a commission or for someone special. Usually, after finishing a project, the woodworker finds him or herself without a new commission and may become depressed when the money stops coming in.

Electricians are 1.3x more likely to commit suicide

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Being exposed to electromagnetic fields all day has to do something to your mental state. I have to also wonder about accidental deaths in this field being labelled as suicide. It seems like in a dangerous job, danger would befall. When a person has to be as exacting with the little electrical components, it would be very stressful. Dealing with that every day may lead to depression and possibly suicide.

Heat Treating Equipment Officers are 1.3x more likely to commit suicide

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Hydrogen sulfate is extremely toxic by inhalation, and guess who works around it? Immersing the self in this poisonous gas is sure to kill. Unfortunately, 25% of the deaths associated with it are of first responders. Other symptoms associated with hydrogen sulfate gas are, but are not limited to: tachycardia, bradycardia, dyspnea, and photophobia.

Farm Managers are 1.32x more likely to commit suicide

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Newsweek’s April 18, 2014 cover page reads: Death on the Farm: Farmers are a Dying Breed, in Part Because They’re Killing Themselves in Record Numbers. I’m not even sure I need to write any more about it, since that pretty much sums everything up. The same story outlines the actions of a man who woke up one morning, shot all of his cows between the horns and then did himself in with an automatic rifle. Farmers have a hard time of it, what with the financial burden of keeping it all afloat and the excruciating work they endure every day. Another problem is the pesticides, which can be a slow poison over time.

Lawyers are 1.33x more likely to commit suicide

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I married a lawyer once. I was there when he had to study for the state bar exam and I was actually wondering why he hadn’t blown his brains out after a while. The profession seems very stressful. The American Psychological Association claims that lawyers are 6 times more likely to experience depression, which makes a lot of sense right there. According to an article in CNN.com, eight of the 50 state bar associations have found reason to be alarmed. California, Montana, Iowa, Mississippi, Florida, South Carolina and North Carolina have added a “mental health component to mandatory legal continuing education.

Electrical Equipment Assemblers are 1.36x more likely to commit suicide

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I’m going to have to take a guess on this one. There was no literature that I could find on this job related to suicide, unless it was about China and the iPhone. The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health has apparently compiled the list I’m referring to, though the link is dead on their website. So I’m going to say that assembling electronics might be extremely boring and there might be a certain level of anomie involved. If you are feeling apart from your work, it can be mind-numbing to say the least.

Real Estate Agents are 1.38x more likely to commit suicide

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It seems that suicide affects real estate agents even when they are on top. In 2009, Steven L. Good, Chairman and Chief Executive Officer of Sheldon Good & Company was found dead in his Jaguar. His death created much turmoil in the real estate industry as the stress of selling pinches everyone in this profession already. And then there are the murders to worry about. Sarah Anne Walker was stabbed 27 times while hosting an open house. That sounds safe. Or there was Ann Nelson, 71, who was robbed, strangled, and beaten with a fireplace poker by a man she thought she was showing a house to. So there is more to be stressed about than sales in real estate, probably a lot more than just possibly getting murdered. Real estate seems like the prime breeding ground for suicide.

Pottery Throwers are 1.39x more likely to commit suicide

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It’s impossible to find information on this profession and suicide. So I will postulate. Artists are the worst kind of perfectionists, and perfectionism can lead to depression. As we all know, depression can lead to suicide. Also, artists can fall into philosophical pits, like asking, “Is it all worth it?” too many times. In addition, you kind of have to be an artist to really appreciate the terror and heartache of making a giant mistake in your work. This alone can start a person thinking negative thoughts that could eventually lead to suicide if help is not sought.

Urban Planners are 1.43x more likely to commit suicide

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Urban planners want to please their entire community. Everyone knows that you can’t please everyone all the time, though. With the unions, long hours, and competition for jobs, urban planners face stress at all angles. As well, there are the politics to contend with. The urban planner is stretched as far as they can go and then, as with the artists, if something does not go as planned, it can be devastating. Even though this profession brings in quite a bit of dough, it is not enough to keep some of this group of people around when push comes to shove – and it does.

Supervisors of Heavy Construction Equipment are 1.46x more likely to commit suicide

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According to the Action Alliance Construction Industry Blueprint: Suicide Prevention in the Workplace, construction industry workers have a capability of fearlessness. The workplace is notorious for acts of bravado, stoicism, and toughness. People who engage in this kind of behavior often find it difficult to ask for help, so if a crucial time of depression comes around, they’re screwed. Supervisors of heavy construction equipment are stressed every day because the workplace includes near-death, fatal, and life-threatening accidents all the time. The supervisor is responsible for whatever happens, which can be a big downer. Also, when a job failure occurs, the supervisor’s identity is often tied to that, which can bring down a hefty load of shame. And we all know where shame will get you.

Chiropractors are 1.5x more likely to commit suicide

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It was hard to find my own research on the suicidality of chiropractors, but then I just googled “chiropractor suicide” and a plethora of articles announcing the suicide deaths of chiropractors came up. I can imagine that this business would be difficult. The financial worries of staying afloat, plus the stress of putting people “back together” properly would add up over time. I don’t think chiropractors take insurance all the time and it would be hard to manage a business on self-pay. Also, many clients use a walk-in policy, so the chiropractor’s books are never full. This would add to a sense of insecurity, and then there’s the mountain of paperwork every night. It seems a fact that chiropractors kill themselves more than average people. But I don’t know why.

Financial Workers are 1.51x more likely to commit suicide

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These are the people who jump to their deaths from skyscrapers. They are under tremendous strain to make money every single day. They work long hours and often feel pressure, whether it’s real or imagined, from their families to make more. Along with having extra money around, alcohol and drugs come freely. No one gives financial workers urine analysis, so all is good for a while. If the person has turned to substances, it is really difficult for them to ask for help. In fact, if you are working 16 hour days, you don’t have time to ask for help.

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Veterinarians are 1.54x more likely to commit suicide

Veterinarian

Thankfully, the rate of suicide among veterinarians has dropped considerably since the eighties, according to Psychological Medicine, June, 2013. However, an April, 2015 issue of The Journal of the American Veterinary Medical Association states that one in six veterinarians have considered suicide. Apparently, veterinary school is very depressing, causing up to 36 percent of its students to enter the field with a gloomy outlook. The handy access to drugs once inside the profession makes veterinarians easy targets for drug addiction and suicide.

Semi- and Unskilled Labor are 1.6x more likely to commit suicide

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Let’s just admit that it’s a drag to have to work your butt off for low pay and any number of aggravations to get it. Back-breaking work can drag a person down, especially if going home means going to a shack. I didn’t put any information in here about migrant workers, but I think they are a good example of how hard a workday can be, how little pay a person can get, and how sad most of us would be if we were doing this for a living.

Dentists are 1.67x more likely to commit suicide

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The September 1, 2007 Oral Health magazine reports that dentists are subject to an alarming number of health problems: “cardiovascular disease, ulcers, colitis, hypertension, lower back pain, eye strain, marital disharmony, alcoholism, drug addiction, mental depression, and suicide”. Well, there you have it. They are confined to a tiny room (smaller than a jail cell), looking into people’s bad breath holes. They are usually alone with a patient and maybe an assistant, but they can’t have conversation. Sounds dreary. I don’t even like to go to the dentist.

Doctors are 1.87x more likely to commit suicide

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So that means that about 400 doctors kill themselves every year. Even though hospitals recognize the toll residency takes on a person, yet nothing gets alleviated and residents stay stressed. Then, you have doctors working 36 hours with little sleep. It sounds grueling, even if you are making doctor-scale money. And don’t forget the sense of fallibility a doctor must face. If he/she screws up, it’s your life instead of theirs. Oh, and the pills. The pills.

Marine Engineers are 1.89x more likely to commit suicide

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I’m just going to guess that it’s the isolation in the engine room, the screaming noise of the machinery and the numbing aloneness of being way, way, out at sea (maybe with a few people whom you dislike?). Overboard, anyone?

Farm Workers are 5.1x more likely to commit suicide

Farm Worker

According to an October 5, 2014 Scientific American article, it’s the pesticides. They are nasty, poisonous, and can cause all sorts of things from confusion to depression. This, along with the back-breaking work of farming and very little pay, can certainly lead to suicide.

Police/Firefighters are 5.3x more likely to commit suicide

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While stress takes an increasing toll among police and fire departments nationwide, no one wants to talk about it. In professions where employees are supposed to handle problems on their own, it’s clearly not working out to stay silent. 300 cops annually commit suicide. That’s twice as many as are killed in the line of duty. Firefighters inhale smoke while risking their lives, causing cancer and other lung problems. Conquering that is hard enough without having to ask for help for a “mental problem”. Unfortunately, not asking can be a fatal mistake.

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To round out The 25 Most Shocking Careers that Might Make You Kill Yourself, I’ve compiled data from The Bureau of Labor Statistics: Occupational Suicides Census of Fatal Occupational Injuries Fact Sheet, August, 2009.

Statistics from Suicides during 2007-2008:

Military Occupations

15 out of 251 suicides

Building and Grounds Cleaning Occupations

15 out of 251 suicides

Protective Services Occupations

25 out of 251 suicides

Sales and Related Occupations

26 out of 251 suicides

Management Occupations

34 out of 251 suicides

 

References:

http://www.newhealthguide.org/Highest-Suicide-Rate-By-Profession.html

http://www.businessinsider.com/most-suicidal-occupations-2011-10?op=1

http://www.cdc.gov/injury/wisqars/leadingcauses.html

http://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2013/p0502-suicide-rates.html

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3642721/

http://www.apa.org/monitor/jan01/suicide.aspx

http://www.bls.gov/iif/oshwc/cfoi/osar0010.pdf

http://www.the-scientist.com/?articles.view/articleNo/8939/title/Suicides-in-Science–A-Search-for-Answers/

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/top-11-professions-highest-suicide-rates-abe-bushansky

http://www.policeone.com/health-fitness/articles/137133-Police-Officer-Suicide-Frequency-and-officer-profiles/

http://thecourier.com/local-news/2015/11/19/ex-pharmacist-tells-story-of-addiction/

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/high-rates-of-suicide-depression-linked-to-farmers-use-of-pesticides/

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1740363/pdf/v059p00649.pdf

http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/01/07/illinois.realestate.death/index.html?eref=rss_us

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3642721/

http://www.tearsofacop.com/police/articles/lewis.html

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http://www.oralhealthgroup.com/news/stress-in-dentistry–it-could-kill-you/1000214585/?&er=NA

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/05/opinion/why-do-doctors-commit-suicide.html?_r=0

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Thanksgiving Self-Murder Quotes

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“I can’t eat and I can’t sleep. I’m not doing well in terms of being a functional human, you know?”
― Ned VizziniIt’s Kind of a Funny Story

“Killing oneself is, anyway, a misnomer. We don’t kill ourselves. We are simply defeated by the long, hard struggle to stay alive. When somebody dies after a long illness, people are apt to say, with a note of approval, “He fought so hard.” And they are inclined to think, about a suicide, that no fight was involved, that somebody simply gave up. This is quite wrong.”
― Sally BramptonShoot the Damn Dog: A Memoir of Depression

 “Mind led body
to the edge of the precipice.
They stared in desire
at the naked abyss.
If you love me, said mind,
take that step into silence.
If you love me, said body,
turn and exist.”
― Anne Stevenson

“Since you seldom spoke, you were rarely wrong. You seldom spoke because you seldom went out. If you did go out, you listened and watched. Now, since you no longer speak, you will always be right. In truth, you do still speak: through those, like me, who bring you back to life, and interrogate you. We hear your responses and admire their wisdom. If the facts turned out to contradict your counsel, we blame ourselves for having misinterpreted you. Yours are the truths, ours are the errors.”
― Édouard LevéSuicide

“No,” I say. “I didn’t know that,” and as I say it I feel flooded with bitterness at all the things Ingrid kept secret from me.”
― Nina LaCourHold Still

 “Prate not to me of suicide, Faint heart in battle, not for pride I say Endure, but that such end denied Makes welcomer yet the death that’s to be died.”
― Stevie SmithSelected Poems

 “There once was a woman named Story Easton who couldn’t decide if she should kill herself, or eat a double cheeseburger.”
― Elizabeth LeiknesThe Understory

 

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